Why Women Cheat!

The word cheating is often associated with men – Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Elliot Spitzer and Governor Mark Sanford, but the latest statistics reveal women cheat on their husbands equally as much as men – one in five married women has had an affair.

Why do women cheat on their husbands? Put it down to The Putt Putt Syndrome, says one relationship expert.

The Putt Putt Syndrome is a new movie, a dark comedy by director and producer, Allen Cognata; it had its New York City screening last Friday and coming to Los Angeles in March. Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD, the exclusive relationship expert to the new movie says that “Women cheat for different reasons to men – when they feel invisible and their needs aren’t met.”

“The Putt Putt Syndrome is a real and common occurrence where both partners putt along on contentment; the man is in mid-life crisis and the woman is disillusioned by a one-minute romp, feeling lonely, isolated and neglected by her husband. He’s lost in his work and she’s lost in the children and her own career. Gone is the romance and excitement and they have become roommates – the woman feels invisible, she’s not being heard, and with plenty of opportunity and temptation around her, today’s woman seeks to have her needs met elsewhere…cheating occurs”

The film, The Putt Putt Syndrome stars lead talent Jason London (Dazed and Confused), David Chokachi (Baywatch/Witchblade), Thea Gill (Queer As Folk), Heather Tom (The Bold and The Beautiful), Robert Maschio (Scrubs) and Paul Diomede (The Messenger.)

Johnny (Jason London) thinks he lives the perfect married life until his friend Tony (David Chokachi) whose wife cheated on him, plants a seed of doubt in Johnny’s mind. One day, tired of hearing his bitter friend’s nagging about why wives cheat and marriages fail, Johnny decides to check out his theories only to discover he has got all the symptoms himself. Suddenly, Johnny’s perception of suburban marital bliss comes tumbling down, as he finds himself trying to save his marriage in the midst of a midlife crisis.

Vicki, the cheating wife (played by Heather Tom) reveals in the film why she cheated when her husband stopped giving her attention and stopped noticing her.

The movie’s exclusive relationship expert, Dr. Wanis says “For men, cheating is often first about power and temptation, but for women, cheating is about feeling neglected and unloved and even ugly. And when another man comes along and gives her the attention, listens to her and makes her feel alive, treasured and special, she will give in and have an affair.”

Dr. Wanis also says, “There are strategies to get out of the Putt Putt Syndrome and prevent an affair. Relight the fire by first putting the romance and marriage as the priority. Many parents put their children first but then the marriage falls apart and the children end up being hurt, lonely and parentless.”

Dr. Wanis says action is the answer and offers a few key tips for men:
* Men need to listen and pay attention to their wife
* Notice everything about her – when she does her hair, it’s for you
* Make her your priority once more, put her first
* Stop thinking that marriage is SOD (s.. on demand) and romance her once again; be creative
* Block time to discuss bills, problems and responsibilities and then switch off and become a romantic couple
* Compliment her, give her attention and affection without expecting or trying to lead to s..

For women, Dr. Wanis suggests:
* Stop taking the children to every single co-curricular activity on offer
* Start putting the marriage first
* Tell your man/husband how you feel – neglected, invisible, not heard
* Create a weekly date night
* Reserve a hotel room once a month for that “afternoon delight”
* Use texting to create anticipation and mystery for a surprise meeting with your partner
* Play roles and fantasies
* Revive the mystery and flirting

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